{"id":8727,"date":"2017-02-06T06:00:22","date_gmt":"2017-02-06T11:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ben-sternke-live.prev17.rmkr.net\/?p=8727"},"modified":"2025-03-07T18:54:59","modified_gmt":"2025-03-07T22:54:59","slug":"how-to-have-a-difficult-conversation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gravitycommons.com\/es\/how-to-have-a-difficult-conversation\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Have a Difficult Conversation: 3 Practices"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhenever two or three are gathered, there will be all kinds of problems\u2026\u201d
\n<\/em> \u2013 Something Jesus did NOT say (but is true nonetheless)<\/p>\n

\n

My frustration with a\u00a0particular staff member had been increasing over several months and was now at a steady simmer. When I hired him, I saw him as a young, smart, and driven millennial with tons of leadership potential. Things started out great, but the honeymoon was coming to an abrupt end.<\/p>\n

Once an optimistic go-getter, he now seemed like a negative naysayer. Every time I submitted an idea for his consideration, I was met with pushback and complaint. Once humble and teachable, he now seemed prideful and arrogant. Whenever we were gathered as a team, he consistently defaulted to the role of teacher, informing others (including me) of the right answers.<\/p>\n

He was becoming a problem. And not only was I feeling it, but so were others around me. I was feeling pressure from staff, both vertically and horizontally, to set him straight.<\/p>\n

Something clearly needed to be done. But what? And how? How to have this difficult conversation?<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Name and blame<\/h2>\n

A few years ago, my plan would have been simple and straightforward: name<\/em> and blame<\/em>.<\/p>\n

I would have leveraged my positional power as his boss to\u00a0apply pressure toward the desired outcome. I would have sat him down, named the problem, provided evidence for the problem, demanded that the problem be rectified, and attached a deadline to ensure a timely fix.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the\u00a0problem. Here\u2019s why this is a problem. You need to fix this problem. This is how much time you have to do it. Oh, and is there anything I can to do help you fix this in time?<\/em><\/p>\n

The conversation would have taken\u00a0no more than 15 minutes, I would get my point across, and the onus would be on him to improve things\u2026or else!<\/em><\/p>\n

But what I\u2019ve been learning is that this approach doesn\u2019t do good work for anyone involved.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For the leader, putting others in their place by demanding change requires zero vulnerability or humility, let alone empathy or compassion. And for the one being led, they typically walk away feeling called out and shamed, not understood and empowered.<\/p>\n

Additionally,\u00a0the underlying frustrations are rarely resolved. Not really<\/em>. It\u00a0tends to produce mounting frustration that pops up somewhere else, usually resulting in a resignation, either forced or voluntary.<\/p>\n

The way of Jesus<\/h2>\n

Name and Blame<\/em>\u00a0is at odds with the kind of leadership Jesus modeled. Jesus didn\u2019t name and blame. He didn\u2019t control and manipulate. He didn\u2019t point out people\u2019s problems and demand they solve them.<\/p>\n

He met them where they were in love by inviting them into a different way of living. Jesus got low with people. He got humble. And he washed their feet.<\/p>\n

He also called his disciples to do the same. Here’s how Jesus put it in Mark 10:42-45,<\/p>\n

You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Own and invite<\/h2>\n

I knew name and blame<\/em> was at odds with the kind of leadership Jesus modeled, and I\u2019d left it behind. But\u00a0my scheduled meeting with this frustrating staff member was rapidly approaching, and I felt stuck in imaginative gridlock about what to do instead.<\/p>\n

I spent some time praying, and put together a \u201cconversational roadmap\u201d in my mind. The next morning we met and I said something like this:<\/p>\n

Hey, I\u2019m having a leadership problem that I want to invite you into. The problem is I\u2019ve been frustrated in trying to lead you and I\u2019ve started telling myself a story about you as to why that is the case.<\/em><\/p>\n

My guess is that my story about you isn\u2019t entirely accurate nor is my frustration one-sided. And I don\u2019t want to be frustrated with you. The truth is I want to work well with you.<\/em><\/p>\n

Can we talk about this? I\u2019d really like your help. Is there something I am doing that is frustrating you?<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

As I’m sure you\u00a0can see, this approach was radically different than my other roadmap.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It started with me rather than him. It started with me owning my<\/em> problem and inviting him into it. Since I didn\u2019t need to pretend to have all the answers or the definitive perspective on the situation, I was able to welcome his input.<\/p>\n

And because when I\u2019m frustrated I tend to leak frustration, I assumed I wasn\u2019t the only one frustrated. If I was frustrated, chances were high he was frustrated too.<\/p>\n

Caring more about the person than the problem<\/h2>\n

The basic shift that took place in me was caring more for him as person than the problem he was creating<\/strong>. Together we were able to gather around the frustration in our relationship rather than pointing fingers at each other.<\/p>\n

When you treat people as the problem it creates more antagonism and frustration. When you treat the problem as the problem while caring for the person, you end up in a much better place to join hands and figure out the problem together.<\/p>\n

The result isn’t the point<\/h2>\n

You might be curious how this new approach worked out.<\/p>\n

In this particular situation, he responded really well. He didn\u2019t get defensive or combative. He didn\u2019t lash out or get angry. He simply agreed and asked for my help.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s not really the point.<\/strong> Because this way of approaching people resists the temptation to control and manipulate, it means people are free to respond how they want to respond.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve had about 15 conversations like this in the last few months and some of them didn’t go well! Sometimes people get terribly upset.<\/p>\n

But the point isn\u2019t the outcome of the problem. The point is that I\u2019m inhabiting\u00a0the posture and presence of Jesus and inviting people to meet me in that space. If they refuse, that\u2019s their choice. The next step is always to meet them in their chosen space with the posture and presence of Jesus.<\/p>\n

How to have a difficult conversation: 3 practices<\/h2>\n

So how to do this? Here are 3\u00a0practices<\/strong> that will help you move toward others when tensions are running high. 3 practices to help you have a difficult conversation in the way of Jesus, full of grace and truth.<\/p>\n

1. Make the first truth you tell be the truth about yourself<\/em><\/h3>\n

It sounds like this: “This is my problem. And I need your help<\/em>.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Our previous roadmap would have started with the exact opposite truth: “I don\u2019t have a problem. You<\/strong> have a problem that I will name for you<\/em>.”<\/p>\n

But when you frame the conversation as a problem you<\/em> are having that you<\/em> need help with, it puts you in a position of humility and vulnerability. This will help you examine yourself first and assume a posture of listening.<\/p>\n

It will help you seek to understand before being understood. This will also ensure that the starting point is teamwork\u2014working with<\/em> each other on a problem rather than against<\/em> each other.<\/p>\n

2. Invite others to shape the story you are writing<\/h3>\n

It sounds like this: “Here\u2019s the story I\u2019m telling myself. But I’m sure I don’t have the whole picture. Can you help me write it?”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Our previous roadmap would have allowed little room for negotiations:\u00a0I am certain there is a problem. And I am certain the problem is you<\/strong>!<\/em><\/p>\n

But by not presenting your viewpoint as definitive, you welcome the other person\u2019s input. You are not denying your concerns, but you are holding them out tentatively. Here\u2019s what I\u2019ve observed. This is the story I\u2019m telling myself. Can you speak to this?<\/em><\/p>\n

This not only allows your perspective to be informed by the other person\u2019s contributions, but will help you not confuse that person with the problem. When we treat people as the problem, we tend to name and blame.<\/p>\n

But when we make the other person the priority, the problem becomes secondary and is typically resolved naturally.<\/p>\n

3. Own your part of the problem<\/h3>\n

If there\u2019s something you did wrong or could have done better, own it. It sounds like this: “I could have handled that better\u2026\u00a0Yes, I see how my words and actions hurt you.\u00a0 I\u2019m sorry.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Part of leading in love involves inviting people to share the pain they\u2019ve experienced under your leadership, owning it, and growing from it. Too often leaders allow their positional authority to excuse them from apologizing.<\/p>\n

Because it\u2019s not obligatory, it\u2019s not considered necessary. But you can\u2019t expect those you are leading to own their stuff and grow if you are unwilling to do so yourself.<\/p>\n

And, it probably goes without saying, but any apology of admission must be done in a genuine way and with full sincerity.<\/p>\n

Questions for reflection<\/h2>\n
    \n
  1. What are your defaults that work against having conversations like this?<\/strong><\/li>\n
  2. What other practices that have helped you move toward<\/em> others in conflict?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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