{"id":30345,"date":"2024-11-25T06:00:14","date_gmt":"2024-11-25T10:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gravitycommons.com\/?p=30345"},"modified":"2025-03-07T18:54:53","modified_gmt":"2025-03-07T22:54:53","slug":"what-to-do-while-you-wait","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gravitycommons.com\/es\/what-to-do-while-you-wait\/","title":{"rendered":"Qu\u00e9 hacer mientras esperas (una meditaci\u00f3n de Adviento)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Advent begins this Sunday, and one of the main themes of this liturgical season is waiting<\/em>. Waiting can feel like a whole lot of nothing to me. Waiting implies refraining <\/em>from action, not <\/em>doing, the absence<\/em> of action. There\u2019s an unavoidable passivity to waiting, where you entrust yourself to others and events outside of your control.<\/p>\n

One of the hallmarks of my personality is that I strive to retain the ability to do<\/em> something about my situation, to have control over how my life turns out. I don’t like depending on others or waiting for circumstances beyond my influence to change. This makes waiting<\/em> one of my least favorite things to do in life. When there’s no clear action I can take to change my situation for the better, I feel “stuck.”<\/p>\n

I especially find waiting difficult when I must endure some kind of suffering<\/em> beyond my control. My automatic reaction to these kinds of difficult circumstances is to<\/p>\n

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  1. Assume I have made some kind of mistake that has led to this difficulty, and therefore<\/li>\n
  2. Attempt to “solve” the “problem” and thereby find myself in more pleasant circumstances.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Our problem with waiting<\/h2>\n

    If my conversations with people are any indicator, this is a very common (modern, Western) approach to difficulties and suffering. The assumption behind this automatic reaction, I think, is a kind of unconscious prosperity theology, where God rewards good behavior with an easy, comfortable life. Don\u2019t have an easy life? You must have strayed from the path somehow and need to get back on the straight and narrow. Then God will bless you with comfort and ease.<\/p>\n

    Also, because we live in a society that has practically deified technology, we tend to see difficulties as a sign of wrongness, a glitch in the system, a flaw in the plan, an error in the calculation, a problem to solve. We should be able to work and engineer our way out of any difficulty, the assumption goes, and so when difficulties persist, we keep wracking our brains for new solutions.<\/p>\n

    Of course, some of our difficulties in life are indeed due to poor choices or sin, and repentance and restitution must definitely figure into these kinds of situations. But many<\/em> of the difficulties and complexities we face in our lives are totally beyond our direct control. What do we do with these, besides\u2026 nothing?<\/p>\n

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    Photo by Marco L\u00f3pez on Unsplash<\/p><\/div>\n

    Patience as a task<\/h2>\n

    But what if staying in problem-solving mode short-circuits the work God desires to do in our lives through these kinds of situations? In his Spiritual Diary<\/a><\/em> Russian orthodox priest Sergius Bulgakov wrote that if the \u201cdifficulties and complexities we face in our lives\u201d are not due to our choices or sins, then we can accept them as \u201cGod\u2019s will\u201d for ourselves, a.k.a. the place where God is present and working with and for us, \u201cas a riddle for the time being, and as a task for the present<\/strong>\u201d (p. 66, emphasis mine).<\/p>\n

    This was a new, empowering perspective for me: simply <\/strong>enduring<\/strong><\/em> the difficulties and complexities of my life as a \u201ctask for the present.\u201d <\/strong>If I can\u2019t find a way out of the suffering or confusion or difficulty I\u2019m experiencing, I can simply endure it patiently, as a task.<\/em> Blessedly, it\u2019s something I can actually do. <\/em>I can get up in the morning, say my prayers, ask God for help, and then get to the work I have to do today, even though I am also facing difficulties and complexities that I wish were different.<\/p>\n

    Most of the time the \u201cdifficulties and complexities we face in our lives\u201d are not problems to solve, or signs of God\u2019s displeasure, but simply part of life in a broken world. As such, they are to be endured with as much grace as possible (and indeed we need much grace to endure), trusting that God is at work in all things, to purify our faith, even through suffering we didn\u2019t choose or cause.<\/p>\n

    This is a form of humbling ourselves, of coming to terms with reality, and growing in our capacity to do what love requires in each moment. Instead of distracting ourselves by fretting over how to get out of difficult circumstances, we are empowered to discern what action is needed in the present moment.<\/p>\n

    Bulgakov encourages us to take that action \u201cas if the destinies of the world depend on you\u2014on your activity or inactivity, however small or insignificant in its sphere\u2014no less than they depend on all these grandiose by illusory events taking place on the stage of history\u2026 Love, take risks, sacrifice, and the rest will be granted to you\u201d (Spiritual Diary<\/a><\/em>, p. 67).<\/p>\n

    I find I need to repeat this injunction to myself often. This Advent, maybe you’re also in a season of waiting. <\/em>If so, may these words be a kind of blessing for you as you wait: Love, take risks, sacrifice, and the rest will be granted to you.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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